I was still hearing a
bunch of stuff from Lisa about how much she hates the things you do
today. I can't take it and I told her off!!!
I asked Lisa this: "Even
though I agree at some point in time about some things doesn't mean you
have the right to go on and on about everything you hate about somebody.
You need to throw in at least 30 compliments to me about Sally to
make it up."
Like a child who needs to practice common courtesies.
I am really tired of her rumors. If anyone needs to get a handle on
themselves it would be Lisa. We all need to repent and change bit by
bit throughout our lives individually as people, but the first step is
to acknowledge what one is doing. It's about being nice to one another
and starting from scratch and actually trying our hardest to forget each
other's faults. She brought so much stuff up that it reminded me of
some things about your past. I am sorry for saying that to her. It was a
very small thing compared to all the crap she continued to say about
you. If I didn't put an end to it she would've continued (as she did
yesterday). She needs to admit her faults. She started telling me all
about your inadequacies on Saturday and continued until Monday the 15th
of June 2020. I believe that she is slowly, but surely tearing me apart
from having a good relationship with you and her as well. I think that
she is very immature and can't admit when she is wrong. She says that
she doesn't spread rumors (rumors are negative facts about people) she
does that professionally. If it were her career she would be great at
being a media mogul on gossip and spreading dirt.
I
sent this all to Lisa to look it over and for her to (maybe) find her
faults. It went as expected and her word war was brought to the
forefront of the conversation. She wouldn't let down. There was one
apology. It was about not being friends with me any longer. I stated
over and over again that I want her to stop. Over the phone too. I tried to play neutral for a while, but there were constant impingement's that Lisa kept bringing up about you that I just got sick of. Stating that I wanted her to simply stop just fueled her fire
even more. I don't need someone in my life like that! It's purely
ridiculous that she doesn't have anything better to do than to hold you
close and push everyone else away. I am distraught and sad about the way
she treated me and you. She needs to say sorry to me and give me many,
many compliments about you as a challenge (She needs a little nudge to
do what is right in life as does everyone). Rumors, hearsay, and gossip
are cruel, horrible ways to talk.
This is what was said by Lisa since Saturday about you.
I
copied and pasted them exactly how they are on Facebook Messenger. She
is destroying every ounce of respect for herself with each deteriorating
statement digging herself deeper and deeper in the hole of self
righteous platitude!
Me: This is the shit you talked about Sally please look
over it and make sure you're correct! because being right is always more
important than being nice, correct?
From Saturday night on with Lisa and I:
Me:
I'll miss you tonight personally if you're not going. Anyways. Have a
good night, but I would like you to go hang out with me and my friends.
What do you mean. I want to go. She did not want to go. She is way ocd right now.
She had no right telling you. Her and I were still talking.
Me:
She is picking me up at 4:40. If you and her can come together that
would be a plus, but if I could go hang out with you on Monday, I could
take the mat home then. It's up to you two.
She
cares more about money than our friendship. I have bent over backwards
helping her with getting her bed out of the way. Because her dad kept
bitching. And the trundle was in her way. Now I am storing her bed over
here. I am not buying her bed anymore. Because she wants $130.00 or no
deal. I do not think it's worth that much. I cannot even sell my queen.
She had no right saying that I was not going. If she will calm down her
ocd I would go.
And stop playing the poor game
And
wanting more than gas money from me. I told her I will give her $5. But I
guess she did not like that. I told her hopefully you and your friend
could give five too. She is the one that never wanted to go in the first
place. I told her that we cannot do that to you. She just said I have a
lot to unpack. I said you always will.
Tell
her that. She sends things to me online to buy. She gets a high and
tries to get me to shop for more. If I say no. I cannot afford that. She
gives me that look and says you sure. Then she acts like a two year
old. It's hard. All she ever wants to do is go to Walmart for fun.
Me: hmm
Me: yeah
Yes you are right.. I already told her I did not want to buy her bed anymore
But that I would store it here for her until she does. She got all defensive.
I'm serious. Selling my bed and buying hers has worn me out. I'm tired.
This is all about $10.00
That is more important to her than our friendship.
She has said you have money but you and Mary waist it.
It's ocd. And she has stopped getting help since the covid.
She calls but the lady never picks up. She was working on that. But I have to keep reminding her to do it.
Yep.
I know she wont get 130.00 for that bed. One of the mattresses is shot.
Even a spring coming out. There are tape Mark's on her bed frame. She
won't bother with taking it off herself. Looks tacky.
Tell
her to get help. No matter the covid. She is working on Tom's stuff.
And he has gotton tid of a lot. But she may have one or two boxes. Her dad
brought all the boxes from her room to her house yesterday. She was out
catering to Kellie all day.
So what can I do about tonite?
Do you blow all your money?
I never see you buy a meal at dennys.
Not that I mind sharing. Just asking.
I was so excited about getting out.
Do you have five to give her?
She
does not need your help. She. Just is panicking cause she spent a lot
of money on items for the house. She complained about prices to me
I
told her she could get something cheaper for 9. Don't give her money for
food. She is playing you. I wish you and Tom would talk to her about
being out of control. Don't you care about her that much? Now she will be
expecting 25.00
Tom paid all the rent this month.
She has enough. She is just being stingy.
She doesn't even care that I am not going.
All she says to me is fine.
I have been so exhausted since she moved in. She likes to stay busy and is up late. I have to set my boundaries.
Me: eating. sorry. hold on.
It is five?
Where is Sally?
Why are you eating? You're going out.
Ok. Is Sally there?
Ok well I hope she is coming.
I'm going to do my hair.
Me: what way? Color, style, ...?!
Me: she's here... talk soon. i'm sorry :-(
.straighten.
I was going to get all dolled up. I have not been out in a long time. I
can't believe she messed with you and got a free meal. She doesn't even
care how much I would be spending. She already sobbed her way into me
about the meal. When we let her do that. We are not helping her illness.
Unless you owe her money.
This
party is all about her. She doesn't care about the birthday girl. She
told me she could not get a gift. Even though I told her we could put a
ribbon
Around it
She is all
fake and acting needy. I do not let her act that way with me. I paid
for so many of her meals before her ssi. But she is still the same.
My
sister is a professional on online ads. She has had a business for
years. She said both our beds will probably only sell for 50.00. That
people anymore just want the frame. About daybeds. I sent her photos of
that. She told me they are metal,rickety,and it's too old. That I
should not do this exchange at all.
That
if I cannot sell my bed for 100.00 that the daybed will be harder to
sell then my queen. I will just let Sally find out on her own.
Me: Hmm
No comment??
Me: A very funny comment of uh huh.
Are you playing?
Morning.
I just sold my bed for 80.00. Yeah. But now I'm going to be sleeping on
my couch. I am giving Sally her comforter back.so that will give me
20.00 more dollars. That will make 100.00 dollars. She gave me linen for
her bed. Now she is using that against me. You do not have to say
anything to me. I'm just venting. Maybe she could sell a few sheets to
me. Her and I talk through our sales book.
Where
have all the same people gone? I must find one person who does not
cater to her mental state. That is not a good friend that feeds her
illness and then talks about her problem with others.
My sister wants to tell her off. And to come get her bed out of my home.
They
are not rumors. And you sometimes agree as well. I think I am just
spending too much time with her. I won't bother you again.
Bull shit.
You
stop. We were working it out. You lied about staying neutral. She
talked to you at dinner about me. You lied about buying her a 20 dollar
meal. You lie to her when you talk behind her back. I was keeping what
you said about her private. But no more. You should have told me the truth
that it was bothering you! I talked to you about the bed situation so
did she. Now you are breaking my confidence in some man I thought was my
trusting friend. I am not going to keep your words private. She already
knows how I feel. I tell her the truth, anything I tell you I have
already expressed it to her. Now you are taking my confidential text and
trying to use that against me! Carolyn is so right about you. You live
to humanize. You get on YOUR knees and pray to our heavenly Father. For
your sins. Smoking, drinking and playing women against
women. I do not lie or spread rumors about her. You just were not man
enough to tell me to stop trusting in you. I have told her everything I
have said to you and everything you have said about her. You brought
this on yourself. Shame on you using me to make things worse. Sally and I do not need you taking care of our friendship.
Me: That
was all the crap you talked about Sally and me. I bet you're talking
to Sally about me right now. Because I'm always the big bad wolf
right? The reason why I don't let anybody talk crap about anybody else
around me is because I hate this.
Me:
You two just need to say sorry work it out and stop talking to me about
crap that you want to talk about to me. Just stop. yes it
bothers me.
I wasn't
bothered at first because I thought you would be done. but when it
continued and continued and continued I got pretty pissed off.
Her: Why did you not say so?
Me: I
did and you blamed me for it. I said you need to stop multiple
times. It should be obvious that talking crap about somebody isn't a good
thing especially when it continues. Do you have a counselor? It might
be good. My friends have talked crap about each
other sometimes and I always tell them overtime, that when it gets out
of control, they need to stop telling me.
Me: I bet you're going to insult me instead of calming down and making things right.
AND HERE YA GO:
You
even agreed to some of her ocd hoarder things. I have already told her
all of this. I am sorry Russell. I was stressed and talking I thought to
a friend. But why are you trying to use that against me? I do not spread rumors about her. (HAHA! Right!) I was talking out my
frustrations with what I
thought was a friend. I get sick of your blogs online. (Then don't read
them, I hope she reads this one though KARMA!). I get sick of
listening to you when you are blabbing online.(Then don't do it). But I
never use it against
you or tell you to pray to the lord. (I asked her to pray about the way
she has been acting because it hurts people and it's out of line). I do
not need a friend like you. (If this is how you treat your friends... WOW!)
The trust is gone. I'm sorry to go on. But I am not a criminal (Yeah. I told her I stole something once). Please this conversation is
over you have made your
point.
Me: There you go insulting again. Who do you not insult?
Me: I
really don't like the fact that you think you can say anything to me
and not get me upset. These are my friends you're talking about. even
though I agree at some point in time about some things doesn't mean you
have the right to go on and on about everything you hate about somebody.
You need to throw in at least 30 compliments to me about Sally to
make it up. If you do not I don't want to see you ever. It's kind of a
harsh punishment, but now you are getting all of the things that you
know about me and I know are wrong and throwing that in my face. You do
the
same to Sally. You do the same to all of your friends, I'm assuming,
because if you do it to me and Sally, who are your closest friends,
who else would you do this to? You
find one fault and you find another and you find another and you throw
it in their face at the end of the day when there's a small argument.
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Just reading it over I get so tired of the thoughts that bounce around in that ladies brain. It's sickening!
Welp, with that I'll leave you with: Please talk nice to each other and about each other. If there is nothing nice to say, make something up or don't say anything at all. There are very creative ways to make compliments. Practice always helps. Lisa is nice until she's done with you. She will throw you away like she does while cleaning up her pretty house. She keeps it nice and tidy. She always has popcorn for movie night, and her thoughts stink and need to be taken out like her pretty little house does every day.
